Sex & Relationship Counseling

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Sex can be awkward. Relationships can be confusing. Talking about them with a trusted professional doesn’t have to be weird.

We all bring different expectations, opinions, beliefs, and experiences to our relationships and sex lives. We may have been influenced by fairy tales, religious views, romantic comedies, health education class, porn, friends, past lovers, and our parents. As we grow as individuals and partners, our sexual interests, relationship goals, feelings about sex, and our bodies may change. It’s completely understandable for there to be mismatched sexual desires, incompatible libidos, dry spells, communication issues, insecurity, embarrassment, guilt, or anxiety about sex.

BUT you don’t have to just keep faking orgasms, pretending to have a headache, avoiding the conversation, dreading the deed, and thinking there’s something wrong with you. You don’t have to keep feeling dissatisfied, resentful, disappointed, or uncomfortable in your body and in your relationship. Sexual health, intimacy, pleasure, and the quality of your connections are important.

Sex and relationship counseling can take place as an individual or with your partner(s). I am sex and kink positive, LGBTQ+affirming, and supportive of poly and consensual non-monogamous relationships. You do not have to feel ashamed about your fantasies or your history. Through guided conversation, open discussion, and exploration of the mind-body connection, you can begin to dissolve barriers, heal emotional wounds, enhance relationships, and step into your power as a sexual and social being. (No touch is involved.)

Having a safe space to talk about your sexuality and intimate relationships can lead to greater satisfaction in and out of the bedroom.

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Some sex & relationship issues you may want to discuss:

  • Improving communication

  • Low or mismatched libido

  • Trust and insecurity issues

  • Conflict resolution

  • Performance concerns like premature ejaculation, arousal issues, or performance anxiety

  • Stale, boring, or nonexistent sex life

  • Increasing intimacy and pleasure

  • Masturbation and pornography

  • Premarital counseling

  • Embarrassment, guilt, or shame about preferences, fantasies, or desires

  • Infidelity, betrayal, or affairs

  • Divorce - exploring the decision or life after divorce

  • Issues with orgasms

  • Hormonal shifts caused by pregnancy, childbirth, or menopause

  • Gender Identity

  • LGBTQ+

  • Consensual kink and nonmonogamy

  • Enjoying your body as it changes and ages

  • Impacts of previous relationships, sexual history, or emotional “baggage”

  • Religious or spiritual beliefs about sex, or incompatible views in relationship

  • Trauma, assault, or rape

  • Attachment issues

  • Grieving past relationships or learning to appreciate your current partner(s)

  • Increasing confidence in the bedroom

You are not broken. You deserve to feel pleasure and have fulfilling relationships.